My Blog https://messagemasterymercenary.com/ My WordPress Blog Thu, 28 Nov 2024 20:56:26 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 Write Personality-Driven, Persuasive Content That Convinces People To Buy Your Stuff Without Analysis Paralysis, Imposter Syndrome, Or “Writer’s Block.” https://messagemasterymercenary.com/write-personality-driven-persuasive-content-that-convinces-people-to-buy-your-stuff-without-analysis-paralysis-imposter-syndrome-or-writers-block/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=write-personality-driven-persuasive-content-that-convinces-people-to-buy-your-stuff-without-analysis-paralysis-imposter-syndrome-or-writers-block Thu, 28 Nov 2024 20:53:22 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=422 Write Personality-Driven, Persuasive Content That Convinces People To Buy Your Stuff Without Analysis Paralysis, Imposter Syndrome, Or “Writer’s Block.” You know how you want to splash onto the internet with glowly, glittering prose that will mesmerize any reader, cause them to stop scrolling and look at your message with pumping crimson hearts bulging out of their eyeballs? And you know how you want every word to strut into a room to the beat of a sick 1990s hip hop rock collab showing off that black dress blog to the envy and admiration of everyone who lays eyes on you?  You’d totally die for daily fan email spazzing into your inbox to tell you how much of a viking writing warrior you are (or at the very least compliment you on your curvy asterisk). You’re 100% certain with every jazzy bone vibrating in your body that if you could just master the art of personality writing you could sell enough courses to fully fund those monthly Carribean trips that tempt your fingertips to hit the buy now button on your wanderlust travel destination to all things, Speedos, margaritas and a dashing cabana boy named Raul. Here’s the thing— People buy from personalities, not AI generated copy. This is important to remember when you’re trying to checkmark your content production because how you say something is more important than what you say. It makes the difference between no sales and WHOA SALES! And you’re going to have to decide how you want your business to show up in the minds of others. How you want them to perceive your business and you. Fortunately, you have a lot of control over how to engineer that impression and it doesn’t require you to hire a fat man in a suit named Vinnie to go knocking around local shop owners to get them to comply (this isn’t Goodfellas). But what it does require from you is to understand what sparks attention from the human brain and then use those principles to get that attention moving in your favor. Because when you want to be seen in a world that ignores you? You have to give them a reason to turn their heads. Otherwise, you’re going to lose money. You’re going to get lost in the sea of sameness swimming against the tide of regret. It’s worth it to learn how to write in a way that delivers a pleasurable experience for your clients because that act alone is giving them something they didn’t have before they came across you—- a reason to buy. We know that people like you when you make them feel good about themselves. When you let them talk about themselves and when you spend most of the time asking them questions about themselves. It’s easy peasy and it’s something that a lot of people still don’t know or understand about interpersonal relationships. But it’s the most fascinating part about communicating with others. However, when you’re online writing content for them to consume, you obviously don’t have a chance to sit in front of them face-to-face. It gets harder to compel anyone to listen to you. That’s why learning how to transpose your personality on paper is critical.  Did you know that you can actually trigger the release of “feel good” hormones in a person’s body simply by writing content that makes them feel something?  Think about that. How powerful a gift that is as well as how untapped a resource. Most business owners don’t have a clue this is a “thing.” But it is– it’s a secret weapon you can use for their own good and yours if you learn how to do it. You just have to be willing to learn. And if you are? I can help you.  It’s a great time, I promise! Because the only thing worse than being ignored by clients is knowing a solution for attracting attention exists but not choosing to use it.

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Write Personality-Driven, Persuasive Content That Convinces People To Buy Your Stuff Without Analysis Paralysis, Imposter Syndrome, Or "Writer's Block."

You know how you want to splash onto the internet with glowly, glittering prose that will mesmerize any reader, cause them to stop scrolling and look at your message with pumping crimson hearts bulging out of their eyeballs?

And you know how you want every word to strut into a room to the beat of a sick 1990s hip hop rock collab showing off that black dress blog to the envy and admiration of everyone who lays eyes on you? 

You’d totally die for daily fan email spazzing into your inbox to tell you how much of a viking writing warrior you are (or at the very least compliment you on your curvy asterisk).

You’re 100% certain with every jazzy bone vibrating in your body that if you could just master the art of personality writing you could sell enough courses to fully fund those monthly Carribean trips that tempt your fingertips to hit the buy now button on your wanderlust travel destination to all things, Speedos, margaritas and a dashing cabana boy named Raul.

Here’s the thing— People buy from personalities, not AI generated copy.

This is important to remember when you’re trying to checkmark your content production because how you say something is more important than what you say.

It makes the difference between no sales and WHOA SALES!

And you’re going to have to decide how you want your business to show up in the minds of others. How you want them to perceive your business and you.

Fortunately, you have a lot of control over how to engineer that impression and it doesn’t require you to hire a fat man in a suit named Vinnie to go knocking around local shop owners to get them to comply (this isn’t Goodfellas).

But what it does require from you is to understand what sparks attention from the human brain and then use those principles to get that attention moving in your favor.

Because when you want to be seen in a world that ignores you? You have to give them a reason to turn their heads.

Otherwise, you’re going to lose money. You’re going to get lost in the sea of sameness swimming against the tide of regret.

It’s worth it to learn how to write in a way that delivers a pleasurable experience for your clients because that act alone is giving them something they didn’t have before they came across you—- a reason to buy.

We know that people like you when you make them feel good about themselves. When you let them talk about themselves and when you spend most of the time asking them questions about themselves. It’s easy peasy and it’s something that a lot of people still don’t know or understand about interpersonal relationships. But it’s the most fascinating part about communicating with others.

However, when you’re online writing content for them to consume, you obviously don’t have a chance to sit in front of them face-to-face. It gets harder to compel anyone to listen to you. That’s why learning how to transpose your personality on paper is critical. 

Did you know that you can actually trigger the release of “feel good” hormones in a person’s body simply by writing content that makes them feel something? 

Think about that. How powerful a gift that is as well as how untapped a resource. Most business owners don’t have a clue this is a “thing.” But it is– it’s a secret weapon you can use for their own good and yours if you learn how to do it.

You just have to be willing to learn.

And if you are? I can help you. 

It’s a great time, I promise!

Because the only thing worse than being ignored by clients is knowing a solution for attracting attention exists but not choosing to use it.

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]]> 422 “Writer’s Block” is a Myth for Martyrs Who Are Too Lazy, Scared, or Impotent to Find Out if They’re Any Good https://messagemasterymercenary.com/writers-block-is-a-myth-for-martyrs-who-are-too-lazy-scared-or-impotent-to-find-out-if-theyre-any-good/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=writers-block-is-a-myth-for-martyrs-who-are-too-lazy-scared-or-impotent-to-find-out-if-theyre-any-good Thu, 28 Nov 2024 20:48:49 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=418 “Writer’s Block” is a Myth for Martyrs Who Are Too Lazy, Scared, or Impotent to Find Out if They’re Any Good Writer’s block isn’t a thing. It’s about as real a concept as squidgy little elf-eared beasts scurdling around under your bed at night while you sleep. Writer’s block is a non-medical term that was coined in 1947 by Austrian psychiatrist Edmund Bergler as a way of excusing your own procrastination based on insecurity, doubt, and the inability to acknowledge that you don’t believe you’re good enough to set words on paper in an order that will garner fame, love, and attention. It’s the result of narcissistic ego, not reality. The writer archetype has a reputation for being depressed introverts; weak in will and believing they lack power over their lives and craft (Hemingway, Woolf, Poe and Plath to name a few). In fact, this reputation of suffering has been romanticized to make even more meaning out of a writer’s work.  The notion that writers are plagued with a special gift set apart from mere mortals, and with that a great burden of anguish that no one else could possibly understand. This crap has been perpetuated for centuries. But the truth is much simpler and far less glamorous– writers get off on the idea of calling themselves a writer more than they do actually writing. There are writers who viciously protect the concept of writer’s block because it’s become their identity as a writer. To hold onto it means they don’t have to perform. They can ride the coattails of a great dream, bragging about being a writer without getting dirty actually writing. It’s the self-inflicted wound that keeps on giving. They can anguish over it to fan the flames of their own self-aggrandizing martyrdom. Sulk around the corners of their home in their bathrobes plagued by an imaginary illness. Many writers have accepted this defeatist attitude and that’s why most stay poor. They’d rather stay in their heads where they are always the hero in their story instead of immortalizing themselves on paper. After all, the expectation to be genuine and authentic is intimidating and often burdensome.  We know this to be true because you and I have been this martyr. We’ve indulged in our own vanity of self. We’ve trickled down the wall of uncertainty and imposter syndrome more than a few times only to find zero answers and more greasy insecurity waiting for us. But this is all unnecessary because “writer’s block” isn’t real. It’s an engineered excuse to combat imposter syndrome.  The reality is that the brain never stops thinking. It never stops processing. It is a super computer that will answer any question you have for it.  The problem? You haven’t asked any good questions lately. Well, that’s part of the problem. The other issue is that you don’t know any better. You don’t know that you need to ask questions in order to get the answers you want. Even deeper than that? You have to ask the RIGHT questions if you want to get the answers you’re looking for (that’s no different whether you’re writing fiction or non-fiction). Questions are the brain’s caviar.  And systems and processes are the $49 hoity-toity crackers. They’re the delivery method that deconstructs the “writer’s block” mentality and gets you actually writing again. Having systems and processes eliminates self-hatred and the obsessive compulsive need to believe you’re not good enough. Even pantsers need processes to be able to freely write what comes to mind.  What do I mean about systems and processes? You need a steel reinforced structure upon which to build your Empire State Building. It’s the infrastructure that keeps it standing, not the drywall. So what does that look like?  When it comes to writing, the steel beams are made out of questions– the right kind of questions that cause the brain to release the answers you need to further your prose. Ask the wrong questions and you’re stuck with answers you can’t use.  But ask the right questions?  You’ll never be at a loss for what to say next. And that’s a writer’s core existence. To be able to know what to say next.  Systems and processes are important. Because here’s the thing– no one remembers the words you never publish.

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"Writer's Block" is a Myth for Martyrs Who Are Too Lazy, Scared, or Impotent to Find Out if They're Any Good

Writer’s block isn’t a thing.

It’s about as real a concept as squidgy little elf-eared beasts scurdling around under your bed at night while you sleep.

Writer’s block is a non-medical term that was coined in 1947 by Austrian psychiatrist Edmund Bergler as a way of excusing your own procrastination based on insecurity, doubt, and the inability to acknowledge that you don’t believe you’re good enough to set words on paper in an order that will garner fame, love, and attention. It’s the result of narcissistic ego, not reality.

The writer archetype has a reputation for being depressed introverts; weak in will and believing they lack power over their lives and craft (Hemingway, Woolf, Poe and Plath to name a few). In fact, this reputation of suffering has been romanticized to make even more meaning out of a writer’s work. 

The notion that writers are plagued with a special gift set apart from mere mortals, and with that a great burden of anguish that no one else could possibly understand. This crap has been perpetuated for centuries.

But the truth is much simpler and far less glamorous– writers get off on the idea of calling themselves a writer more than they do actually writing.

There are writers who viciously protect the concept of writer’s block because it’s become their identity as a writer. To hold onto it means they don’t have to perform. They can ride the coattails of a great dream, bragging about being a writer without getting dirty actually writing.

It’s the self-inflicted wound that keeps on giving. They can anguish over it to fan the flames of their own self-aggrandizing martyrdom. Sulk around the corners of their home in their bathrobes plagued by an imaginary illness.

Many writers have accepted this defeatist attitude and that’s why most stay poor. They’d rather stay in their heads where they are always the hero in their story instead of immortalizing themselves on paper. After all, the expectation to be genuine and authentic is intimidating and often burdensome. 

We know this to be true because you and I have been this martyr. We’ve indulged in our own vanity of self. We’ve trickled down the wall of uncertainty and imposter syndrome more than a few times only to find zero answers and more greasy insecurity waiting for us.

But this is all unnecessary because “writer’s block” isn’t real. It’s an engineered excuse to combat imposter syndrome. 

The reality is that the brain never stops thinking. It never stops processing. It is a super computer that will answer any question you have for it. 

The problem?

You haven’t asked any good questions lately.

Well, that’s part of the problem. The other issue is that you don’t know any better. You don’t know that you need to ask questions in order to get the answers you want. Even deeper than that? You have to ask the RIGHT questions if you want to get the answers you’re looking for (that’s no different whether you’re writing fiction or non-fiction).

Questions are the brain’s caviar. 

And systems and processes are the $49 hoity-toity crackers. They’re the delivery method that deconstructs the “writer’s block” mentality and gets you actually writing again.

Having systems and processes eliminates self-hatred and the obsessive compulsive need to believe you’re not good enough. Even pantsers need processes to be able to freely write what comes to mind. 

What do I mean about systems and processes? You need a steel reinforced structure upon which to build your Empire State Building. It’s the infrastructure that keeps it standing, not the drywall.

So what does that look like? 

When it comes to writing, the steel beams are made out of questions– the right kind of questions that cause the brain to release the answers you need to further your prose. Ask the wrong questions and you’re stuck with answers you can’t use. 

But ask the right questions? 

You’ll never be at a loss for what to say next. And that’s a writer’s core existence. To be able to know what to say next. 

Systems and processes are important.

Because here’s the thing– no one remembers the words you never publish.

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]]> 418 You Can Be Fat, Dumb, Ugly, & Stupid. You Just Can’t Be Boring. https://messagemasterymercenary.com/you-can-be-fat-dumb-ugly-stupid-you-just-cant-be-boring/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=you-can-be-fat-dumb-ugly-stupid-you-just-cant-be-boring Sun, 25 Aug 2024 19:14:00 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=250 You Can Be Fat, Dumb, Ugly, & Stupid. You Just Can’t Be Boring. Have you SEEN the wart truffles on social media these days? The absolute dandelion sludge puppies throwing out their interpretations of high brow yuck fests. Dumpster cupcakes literally arguing about the color of blue in between the seams of Taylor Swift’s red dress. You got people with stainless steel stakes protruding from their skulls going live on Tik Tok to talk about the psychological impact Pokeman had on them when they were twelve. There are women selling pliable plastic toys with pimple problems that you buy just to pop their fake zits. The world is officially insane. And you’re worried about showing your face on camera? I know, I know. You have the “I’m too overweight. I don’t want to be criticized for being fat” problem: I have a ton of helpful information that could benefit a lot of people— but no one will believe I’m credible because they’ll think I’m not self-disciplined because I’m not fit. Or the “self-conscious of my looks” problem: I have severely protruding buck teeth and I hate smiling much less talking to people. Why would I put that out there just to be mocked?” Or the “I’m an introvert” problem: I’m shy and get nervous when trying to figure out what to say in front of a camera. I’m afraid I’ll look stupid. OR, the “nobody cares what I have to say” problem: No one knows I exist and nobody is buying my stuff. I GET IT. Putting yourself out there can drag out all the insecurity demons and shine a spotlight on them for the world to see. I’ve seen a man who was attacked by dogs missing his nose and upper lip. Nothing but a gaping hole in there. He could have decided to hide in his house for the rest of his life, assuming he had no value to give and was no longer worthy of love because of what he looked like. Instead? He’s out there showing his actual face. He is motivating and inspiring thousands on Tik Tok with his message. And that has made him attractive as heck. Sometimes being significant is simply being willing to put yourself out there in front of an audience for THEIR benefit (not yours). Sometimes, it’s about the greater sacrifice for the greater good of making their lives better at the expense of your own discomfort. Look, people are naturally voyeurs. We are curious about how others live. That’s why no matter how weird or boring these Tik Tok users show up, we inevitably find ourselves watching them for longer than we’d like to admit. Don’t allow your self-conscious feelings prevent you from showing up to complete your calling. Your self-perception is never what everybody else sees. Most of the time, you see yourself worse than others see you. (We often forget that, don’t we?) That’s why they tell you to fake it until you make it. Act confident until you feel confident. However, consistency is the secret weapon. Showing up confidently consistently is the magic sauce that will allow you to overcome the fear of showing up publicly– whether that’s on video or in your written content. You have been given gifts in this life. And you have been called to speak up despite your insecurities. Whatever those insecurities are, they don’t excuse you from carrying out your God-given mission. You have people to help. There is no option to sit this life game out. You are expected to get out on the field and play. BUT I HAVE GREAT NEWS: Your audience will forgive a lot if you’re good at at least one of two things– being entertaining or informative. Know why? Because both give a release of “feel good” hormones in their bodies. They feel pleasure when they see and read your content (if you have created your content in the right way). If you can be both entertaining and informative? Well, then you’ve hit the jackpot, my sexy sombrero. In fact, there are 13 creative writing techniques I teach you how to use in Creative Writing 2 Ca$h– and every single one of them are designed to make your content both entertaining and informative, no matter what you’re writing about. EVEN PRODUCT DESCRIPTIONS (No, for real– these baddies will BANG-O-RANG any dull content into a splendid sparkler of goodie gladness. I’m telling you– this mastermind is a fireworks show) The most magnificent part? You can pick this up pronto and use it immediately in any piece of content– video, audio, blogs, articles– you name it. It’s suuuper easy to implement. So much so that I used to teach these techniques to my middle school students to use on their state test essays–and they actually used them! The reason you freeze up when creating content and feel like an imposter princess at a flea market is because you have expectations for yourself. You require that you put out the best of yourself, and you know what looks good and what looks like 30-day old ground beef gravy. That’s what brings on the immense frustration when you know what expectation you have but your work isn’t living up to it. You’re disappointed in your content. It doesn’t bring you pride. It doesn’t represent the badassery that’s inside you. And then the analysis paralysis, imposter syndrome, perfectionism and “writer’s block” gang sweep in to face-plant you on the ground, pinned down unable to move forward. Or worse, they give you just enough room to write something that doesn’t get results. No clients. No sales. No followers. No bueno. This is THE numero uno problemo in our field. It’s the murderer of magic. The doubter of dreams. The internet is fueled by messaging and yours is tanking. And that’s NOT something you can afford when those words need to manifest milk in your fridge every month. But what if you accepted your faults? What if you embraced every jaded little wrinkle, every crooked tooth, every chubby cheek? And what if HOW you delivered your message was more important to your audience than what you looked like? What if every boring line, every piece of mediocre content was instantly given a face lift?  What if you immediately and instantly knew what to change, how to design, and how to shape every piece of content without the toxic fumes of imposter syndrome breath spewing over your shoulder? What if you were encouraged to write awful content so that you had “clay” to “mold” into brilliant content?  What if there was no such thing as failing at this content creation thing because the fail safe was in the bag? And what if you had one of the inter web’s most polarizing writers, who has literally built her brand around saying exactly what the helicopter you want to say unapologetically with bravery and courage, and is quite literally the biggest blast of a writing coach to have around (not to mention HUGELY MODEST too)… to show you exactly how to create content that kills? If your message is powerful, your audience will follow you like fanatics. If you can inspire them to change their own lives, they will fight each other just to get next to you. And they will stop what they’re doing to look for you the next time you show up on line. And the next. And the next. Because if the weirdo on Tik Tok who lights his ass hairs on fire for “likes” can gain a million followers, surely you can get out of your own way to go live in the name of changing people’s lives…and your own in the process. Creative Writing 2 Ca$h is the way to make any piece of content instantly attractive.  Check it out!

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You Can Be Fat, Dumb, Ugly, & Stupid. You Just Can't Be Boring.

Have you SEEN the wart truffles on social media these days?

The absolute dandelion sludge puppies throwing out their interpretations of high brow yuck fests. Dumpster cupcakes literally arguing about the color of blue in between the seams of Taylor Swift’s red dress.

You got people with stainless steel stakes protruding from their skulls going live on Tik Tok to talk about the psychological impact Pokeman had on them when they were twelve. There are women selling pliable plastic toys with pimple problems that you buy just to pop their fake zits. The world is officially insane.

And you’re worried about showing your face on camera?

I know, I know. You have the “I’m too overweight. I don’t want to be criticized for being fat” problem:

I have a ton of helpful information that could benefit a lot of people— but no one will believe I’m credible because they’ll think I’m not self-disciplined because I’m not fit.

Or the “self-conscious of my looks” problem:

I have severely protruding buck teeth and I hate smiling much less talking to people. Why would I put that out there just to be mocked?”

Or the “I’m an introvert” problem:

I’m shy and get nervous when trying to figure out what to say in front of a camera. I’m afraid I’ll look stupid.

OR, the “nobody cares what I have to say” problem:

No one knows I exist and nobody is buying my stuff.

I GET IT. Putting yourself out there can drag out all the insecurity demons and shine a spotlight on them for the world to see.

I’ve seen a man who was attacked by dogs missing his nose and upper lip. Nothing but a gaping hole in there. He could have decided to hide in his house for the rest of his life, assuming he had no value to give and was no longer worthy of love because of what he looked like. Instead? He’s out there showing his actual face. He is motivating and inspiring thousands on Tik Tok with his message. And that has made him attractive as heck.

Sometimes being significant is simply being willing to put yourself out there in front of an audience for THEIR benefit (not yours). Sometimes, it’s about the greater sacrifice for the greater good of making their lives better at the expense of your own discomfort.

Look, people are naturally voyeurs. We are curious about how others live. That’s why no matter how weird or boring these Tik Tok users show up, we inevitably find ourselves watching them for longer than we’d like to admit.

Don’t allow your self-conscious feelings prevent you from showing up to complete your calling. Your self-perception is never what everybody else sees. Most of the time, you see yourself worse than others see you. (We often forget that, don’t we?)

That’s why they tell you to fake it until you make it. Act confident until you feel confident.

However, consistency is the secret weapon. Showing up confidently consistently is the magic sauce that will allow you to overcome the fear of showing up publicly– whether that’s on video or in your written content.

You have been given gifts in this life. And you have been called to speak up despite your insecurities. Whatever those insecurities are, they don’t excuse you from carrying out your God-given mission. You have people to help. There is no option to sit this life game out. You are expected to get out on the field and play.

BUT I HAVE GREAT NEWS: Your audience will forgive a lot if you’re good at at least one of two things– being entertaining or informative. Know why? Because both give a release of “feel good” hormones in their bodies. They feel pleasure when they see and read your content (if you have created your content in the right way). If you can be both entertaining and informative? Well, then you’ve hit the jackpot, my sexy sombrero.

In fact, there are 13 creative writing techniques I teach you how to use in Creative Writing 2 Ca$h– and every single one of them are designed to make your content both entertaining and informative, no matter what you’re writing about. EVEN PRODUCT DESCRIPTIONS (No, for real– these baddies will BANG-O-RANG any dull content into a splendid sparkler of goodie gladness. I’m telling you– this mastermind is a fireworks show)

The most magnificent part? You can pick this up pronto and use it immediately in any piece of content– video, audio, blogs, articles– you name it. It’s suuuper easy to implement. So much so that I used to teach these techniques to my middle school students to use on their state test essays–and they actually used them!

The reason you freeze up when creating content and feel like an imposter princess at a flea market is because you have expectations for yourself. You require that you put out the best of yourself, and you know what looks good and what looks like 30-day old ground beef gravy. That’s what brings on the immense frustration when you know what expectation you have but your work isn’t living up to it. You’re disappointed in your content. It doesn’t bring you pride. It doesn’t represent the badassery that’s inside you. And then the analysis paralysis, imposter syndrome, perfectionism and “writer’s block” gang sweep in to face-plant you on the ground, pinned down unable to move forward. Or worse, they give you just enough room to write something that doesn’t get results. No clients. No sales. No followers. No bueno.

This is THE numero uno problemo in our field. It’s the murderer of magic. The doubter of dreams. The internet is fueled by messaging and yours is tanking. And that’s NOT something you can afford when those words need to manifest milk in your fridge every month.

But what if you accepted your faults? What if you embraced every jaded little wrinkle, every crooked tooth, every chubby cheek? And what if HOW you delivered your message was more important to your audience than what you looked like? What if every boring line, every piece of mediocre content was instantly given a face lift? 

What if you immediately and instantly knew what to change, how to design, and how to shape every piece of content without the toxic fumes of imposter syndrome breath spewing over your shoulder?

What if you were encouraged to write awful content so that you had “clay” to “mold” into brilliant content? 

What if there was no such thing as failing at this content creation thing because the fail safe was in the bag?

And what if you had one of the inter web’s most polarizing writers, who has literally built her brand around saying exactly what the helicopter you want to say unapologetically with bravery and courage, and is quite literally the biggest blast of a writing coach to have around (not to mention HUGELY MODEST too)… to show you exactly how to create content that kills?

If your message is powerful, your audience will follow you like fanatics.

If you can inspire them to change their own lives, they will fight each other just to get next to you. And they will stop what they’re doing to look for you the next time you show up on line.

And the next.

And the next.

Because if the weirdo on Tik Tok who lights his ass hairs on fire for “likes” can gain a million followers, surely you can get out of your own way to go live in the name of changing people’s lives…and your own in the process.

Creative Writing 2 Ca$h is the way to make any piece of content instantly attractive. 

Check it out!

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]]> 250 Your Job is to Piss People Off https://messagemasterymercenary.com/your-job-is-to-piss-people-off/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=your-job-is-to-piss-people-off Mon, 19 Aug 2024 19:50:31 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=240 YOUR JOB IS TO PISS PEOPLE OFF We live in a lazy, self-entitled society where accountability is a bad word and permission is given to point the finger at anything and anybody else rather than taking accountability for our own actions. We must first look inward to change things before we expect the outside world to change.   As a result, we’ve built a culture of offense and tip-toeing on eggshells around saying how you truly feel about something to the detriment of being brutalized and defamed for possibly hurting somebody else’s feelings.   It’s ridiculous. It’s beyond the point of comprehension and it keeps everybody quiet and afraid to speak out. If this continues, we as Americans will end up exactly like other countries who are afraid to speak out for fear of violence or death.    As a business owner, it’s time to get in the habit of staking your flag in the ground to say exactly what you mean and how you feel about things. It is time to stand out from everybody else because most people are playing it safe right now. They are staying within the guidelines of that little cowardice shell so that they don’t have to face the backlash or contrary opinions.  By doing that, they’re not getting their message heard because it’s the same message that everybody else is throwing out there.    Nobody is standing up or standing out. In the absence of true leaders, people will listen to the first person who steps up to the mic. So if you’re trying to be a leader by creating vanilla content? You’re wasting your time. Nobody can find you. You blend in with everyone else playing it safe. You have to say things your audience can relate to deeply. Things that matters to them.    The funny thing is– the quiet majority do agree with you, but they’re not saying anything. It’s only the haters that come out to keyboard warrior their distaste for your opinions.   But your true tribe? They’re waiting for you to stand up and speak the truth that they feel so they can follow you.    The haters aren’t important. You’re supposed to show up to piss people off. That’s how you know your content is polarizing enough to part the sea between people who you can’t serve anyway, who you’ll never be able to help, who will never agree with you and who will never come to your side and those who are your tribe, your fanatical fans who love everything you do and who want to jump on your bandwagon.   But if you don’t put that calling out,  If you don’t send out the bat signal,  If you are not the one to stand up and out they have nobody to follow.    So it’s a decision that you have to make. Are you going to stand up and speak out for the things you believe in? For the principles and values you hold? For the solutions you’re going to provide for your customers and clients?   Or are you going to blend in and make the same crappy content as everyone else saying nothing new and different and hope you get noticed? I have to tell you this is not a long-term winning strategy.  It is not something that will build fanatical fans that will follow you anywhere. Fans that will buy everything and anything you put out, even if they didn’t read the sales page because they know it’s good if it’s coming from you.   You have to decide what kind of business owner you’re going to be. Are you going to be that vanilla melancholy that follows everybody else and create a bunch of useless content that says nothing? Or are you going to stand for a purpose in this one life you have and lead others who believe in you and believe in the principles that you share to victory?    It’s a decision and sometimes it’s a decision that needs to be made every single day. It’s hard to be a leader. To be the only one screaming into the wind, but you have to make a commitment you’re going to do that if you value the principles that you have grown up with that you believe. Those that you absolutely are convicted are the truth, and are just, and are the right solutions for your customers and clients. What are you going to do?

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YOUR JOB IS TO PISS PEOPLE OFF



We live in a lazy, self-entitled society where accountability is a bad word and permission is given to point the finger at anything and anybody else rather than taking accountability for our own actions. We must first look inward to change things before we expect the outside world to change.

 

As a result, we’ve built a culture of offense and tip-toeing on eggshells around saying how you truly feel about something to the detriment of being brutalized and defamed for possibly hurting somebody else’s feelings.

 

It’s ridiculous. It’s beyond the point of comprehension and it keeps everybody quiet and afraid to speak out. If this continues, we as Americans will end up exactly like other countries who are afraid to speak out for fear of violence or death. 

 

As a business owner, it’s time to get in the habit of staking your flag in the ground to say exactly what you mean and how you feel about things. It is time to stand out from everybody else because most people are playing it safe right now. They are staying within the guidelines of that little cowardice shell so that they don’t have to face the backlash or contrary opinions.  By doing that, they’re not getting their message heard because it’s the same message that everybody else is throwing out there. 

 

Nobody is standing up or standing out. In the absence of true leaders, people will listen to the first person who steps up to the mic. So if you’re trying to be a leader by creating vanilla content? You’re wasting your time. Nobody can find you. You blend in with everyone else playing it safe. You have to say things your audience can relate to deeply. Things that matters to them. 

 

The funny thing is– the quiet majority do agree with you, but they’re not saying anything. It’s only the haters that come out to keyboard warrior their distaste for your opinions.

 

But your true tribe? They’re waiting for you to stand up and speak the truth that they feel so they can follow you. 

 

The haters aren’t important. You’re supposed to show up to piss people off. That’s how you know your content is polarizing enough to part the sea between people who you can’t serve anyway, who you’ll never be able to help, who will never agree with you and who will never come to your side and those who are your tribe, your fanatical fans who love everything you do and who want to jump on your bandwagon.

 

But if you don’t put that calling out, 

If you don’t send out the bat signal, 

If you are not the one to stand up and out they have nobody to follow. 

 

So it’s a decision that you have to make. Are you going to stand up and speak out for the things you believe in? For the principles and values you hold? For the solutions you’re going to provide for your customers and clients?

 

Or are you going to blend in and make the same crappy content as everyone else saying nothing new and different and hope you get noticed? I have to tell you this is not a long-term winning strategy.  It is not something that will build fanatical fans that will follow you anywhere. Fans that will buy everything and anything you put out, even if they didn’t read the sales page because they know it’s good if it’s coming from you.

 

You have to decide what kind of business owner you’re going to be. Are you going to be that vanilla melancholy that follows everybody else and create a bunch of useless content that says nothing? Or are you going to stand for a purpose in this one life you have and lead others who believe in you and believe in the principles that you share to victory? 

 

It’s a decision and sometimes it’s a decision that needs to be made every single day. It’s hard to be a leader. To be the only one screaming into the wind, but you have to make a commitment you’re going to do that if you value the principles that you have grown up with that you believe. Those that you absolutely are convicted are the truth, and are just, and are the right solutions for your customers and clients. What are you going to do?





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]]> 240 YOU ARE A HERO. YOU ARE A COWARD. https://messagemasterymercenary.com/you-are-a-hero-you-are-a-coward/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=you-are-a-hero-you-are-a-coward Thu, 15 Aug 2024 17:11:45 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=231 YOU ARE A HERO. YOU ARE A COWARD. Question is– which one will you be today? As a business owner, your goal should be to piss off the wrong people. The people who don’t really want to get what you’re saying anyway. Those who are too tangled up in their own subconscious emotions that they’d rather use you as a deflection tactic to hate on what you’re doing rather than face their own feelings of inadequacy. You’d never convince them to hear you out. They’re not ready to listen. But the right people? They will absolutely love what you have to say. They shake their heads “yes” at every point you make. They stop what they’re doing when they get a new email from you just to see what you have to say this week. They become fanatical fans because they feel that you understand who they are. They identify themselves through you. That’s why you should be force-feeding the world exactly what you think about it and all the people in it. You should be shouting it from the nearest toll booth. Declaring it to all who will listen. Unapologetically standing up and representing your thoughts no matter how beautiful or horrific to others. Having a polarizing opinion will not diminish your credibility like most of us tend to believe– it actually does the opposite. People are drawn to unapologetic thought leaders who say the things everyone else is too afraid to say. They are in awe and amazement when you have the courage not to care what blowback you may get and choose that discomfort for the opportunity to state your truth. And the very fact that you are willing to stand up automatically sets you apart as the one percent of the one percent of the population. It’s the one thing that will get you seen as an expert and authority faster than anything else. But there’s a trick– your hardest hitting opinions should be delivered as a bat signal for a powerful purpose. They should not be used as a weapon to complain or whine. This is important to get right. People don’t want to follow whiners, they want to follow leaders. And leaders have the discernment and wisdom to determine what is fair and right and just. Don’t use your power as a whip to beat down others. Use it as a torch to light the way for them to follow you. Because in the end, you’re not trying to figure out what other people think. You’re trying to figure out what YOU think so you can stand up and say it. The right people will love and follow you for that. Failing to stand up is what makes you a coward. But risking any possible fallout so that your message saves your people is what makes you a hero.

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YOU ARE A HERO. YOU ARE A COWARD.

Question is– which one will you be today?

As a business owner, your goal should be to piss off the wrong people.

The people who don’t really want to get what you’re saying anyway. Those who are too tangled up in their own subconscious emotions that they’d rather use you as a deflection tactic to hate on what you’re doing rather than face their own feelings of inadequacy. You’d never convince them to hear you out. They’re not ready to listen.

But the right people? They will absolutely love what you have to say. They shake their heads “yes” at every point you make. They stop what they’re doing when they get a new email from you just to see what you have to say this week. They become fanatical fans because they feel that you understand who they are. They identify themselves through you.

That’s why you should be force-feeding the world exactly what you think about it and all the people in it. You should be shouting it from the nearest toll booth. Declaring it to all who will listen. Unapologetically standing up and representing your thoughts no matter how beautiful or horrific to others.

Having a polarizing opinion will not diminish your credibility like most of us tend to believe– it actually does the opposite. People are drawn to unapologetic thought leaders who say the things everyone else is too afraid to say.

They are in awe and amazement when you have the courage not to care what blowback you may get and choose that discomfort for the opportunity to state your truth. And the very fact that you are willing to stand up automatically sets you apart as the one percent of the one percent of the population. It’s the one thing that will get you seen as an expert and authority faster than anything else.

But there’s a trick– your hardest hitting opinions should be delivered as a bat signal for a powerful purpose. They should not be used as a weapon to complain or whine. This is important to get right. People don’t want to follow whiners, they want to follow leaders. And leaders have the discernment and wisdom to determine what is fair and right and just. Don’t use your power as a whip to beat down others. Use it as a torch to light the way for them to follow you.

Because in the end, you’re not trying to figure out what other people think. You’re trying to figure out what YOU think so you can stand up and say it. The right people will love and follow you for that.

Failing to stand up is what makes you a coward.

But risking any possible fallout so that your message saves your people is what makes you a hero.

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]]> 231 Your Content Sounds like a Preppy Bully Named Chad. “Chad” Deserves to be Throat Punched https://messagemasterymercenary.com/your-content-sounds-like-a-preppy-bully-named-chad-chad-deserves-to-be-throat-punched/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=your-content-sounds-like-a-preppy-bully-named-chad-chad-deserves-to-be-throat-punched Thu, 15 Aug 2024 17:07:43 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=222 Your Content Sounds like a Preppy Bully Named Chad. “Chad” Deserves to be Throat Punched (A firm knife hand to the jugular oughta do it)   I can’t stand the weak, flimsy content that parades around online these days.  Zero creativity. Zero reason to sparkle about anything. Zero interest in capturing an audience’s attention and offering them a pleasurable experience, or shifting their perspective in a new, thought-provoking way.  I call him Chad. Chad has no interest in designing himself to be valuable to others. He’s only interested in bragging about himself. Chad’s short life had nothing to do with merit, leading him to believe he was better than those around him. Chad’s the 1980’s copy equivalent to the triple popped collar in Miami Vice pastels. He’s the Flock of Seagulls haircut. He’s the douchey coward who says what everyone else says instead of standing for something original. He likes to throw up some lame nonsense like it’s the newest, most interesting thing around and expects everyone to marvel at the steaming turd pile in the palm of his hand. It’s the audacity of his arrogance in the midst of his ignorance that is really jaw dropping. He talks a lot yet says nothing interesting. Hoping instead that the quantity of his words will equate to quality in the eyes of his readers. Instead, he largely gets eyerolls and is ignored. He’s a bozo and his message speaks to that point. Chad isn’t impressing anyone. He isn’t “The Man.” He’s a flacid, entitled rookie who’d do better to run down the streets of New York City in his tighty whities slinging showtunes from the corner of his pie hole than ever convincing anyone that his content is worth reading. He’s a washed up, out of touch dick stick who should die a slow painful death. Chad’s a turd. And you’ve been hanging around with him lately. Allowing him to slop himself all over your platform like a boozed up chinchilla with a ballerina tutu on hoping to get attention relying on pure spectacle factor alone. Meanwhile, he’s cringe-driving away all the babes.  Chad doesn’t understand that he’s boring, undesirable and lazy. He doesn’t realize nobody likes him. And when nobody likes you, nobody pays attention to you. Know who we DO love? Ducky. We love Ducky. Know why? Because he’s the opposite of Chad. He’s quirky, fun, lovable and interesting. He lives to like you. He surprises, delights, and tickles you in all the right places making you want to be around him. He makes you want to seek him out, see what he’s up to and hope that you get to spend more time with him. See the difference? One’s a dumb, drooling bore fest. And the other? A sizzling bundle of comedic joy. When it comes to creating content, don’t rely on flimsy, impotent content and then expect it to backpack the heavy lifting for your business. Don’t be a Chad. Instead, be a Ducky.    

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Your Content Sounds like a Preppy Bully Named Chad. "Chad" Deserves to be Throat Punched

(A firm knife hand to the jugular oughta do it)

 

I can’t stand the weak, flimsy content that parades around online these days. 

Zero creativity. Zero reason to sparkle about anything. Zero interest in capturing an audience’s attention and offering them a pleasurable experience, or shifting their perspective in a new, thought-provoking way. 

I call him Chad. Chad has no interest in designing himself to be valuable to others. He’s only interested in bragging about himself.

Chad’s short life had nothing to do with merit, leading him to believe he was better than those around him.

Chad’s the 1980’s copy equivalent to the triple popped collar in Miami Vice pastels. He’s the Flock of Seagulls haircut. He’s the douchey coward who says what everyone else says instead of standing for something original. He likes to throw up some lame nonsense like it’s the newest, most interesting thing around and expects everyone to marvel at the steaming turd pile in the palm of his hand.

It’s the audacity of his arrogance in the midst of his ignorance that is really jaw dropping. He talks a lot yet says nothing interesting. Hoping instead that the quantity of his words will equate to quality in the eyes of his readers. Instead, he largely gets eyerolls and is ignored.

He’s a bozo and his message speaks to that point.

Chad isn’t impressing anyone. He isn’t “The Man.” He’s a flacid, entitled rookie who’d do better to run down the streets of New York City in his tighty whities slinging showtunes from the corner of his pie hole than ever convincing anyone that his content is worth reading. He’s a washed up, out of touch dick stick who should die a slow painful death.

Chad’s a turd.

And you’ve been hanging around with him lately. Allowing him to slop himself all over your platform like a boozed up chinchilla with a ballerina tutu on hoping to get attention relying on pure spectacle factor alone.

Meanwhile, he’s cringe-driving away all the babes. 

Chad doesn’t understand that he’s boring, undesirable and lazy. He doesn’t realize nobody likes him.

And when nobody likes you, nobody pays attention to you.

Know who we DO love?

Ducky. We love Ducky. Know why?

Because he’s the opposite of Chad. He’s quirky, fun, lovable and interesting.

He lives to like you.

He surprises, delights, and tickles you in all the right places making you want to be around him. He makes you want to seek him out, see what he’s up to and hope that you get to spend more time with him.

See the difference?

One’s a dumb, drooling bore fest. And the other? A sizzling bundle of comedic joy.

When it comes to creating content, don’t rely on flimsy, impotent content and then expect it to backpack the heavy lifting for your business. Don’t be a Chad.

Instead, be a Ducky.  

 

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]]> 222 BINDING & HEALING THE SPIRIT OF “NOT GOOD ENOUGH” https://messagemasterymercenary.com/hello-world/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=hello-world https://messagemasterymercenary.com/hello-world/#comments Mon, 18 Dec 2023 16:07:32 +0000 https://messagemasterymercenary.com/?p=1 BINDING & HEALING THE SPIRIT OF “NOT GOOD ENOUGH” During my school years, my mother who was in an abusive relationship for most of that time with my first stepdad, would scream at my step-siblings and me every day when she got home about the household chores we were required to do each day were not clean enough. It was a daily ritual. She would find something small to complain about. That complaining would turn into screaming and that screaming was a message that we never cleaned well enough. She would inspect the floor, the dishes, and the bathroom and find something that wasn’t up to her cleaning standards to unload on us. It didn’t matter how hard we tried to anticipate what she would get angry about, or how hard we would clean, she would find something that wasn’t good enough. Looking back at her behavior, I’m unsure whether or not she was aware of what she was doing. I don’t think she was, but I can’t be sure. Several years and plenty of therapy later, I’ve been able to get more of a 30,000-foot view of the situation, and here is the best I can come up with about that time– Since she had such a loss of control over her own life–the daily verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse fighting with my stepfather–she hyper-focused on the only things she could control. One of those was cleaning. And the only people she could take out her powerlessness on were her kids. Her husband dumped on her and in return, she dumped on us. We had no one to dump on but each other. Her feelings of not being good enough were transferred onto us. We were her proverbial “punching dolls.” My brain largely internalized those feelings and translated them into one very clear meaning— No matter how hard I tried, I would never be good enough. The entire situation was not great (to say the least) and set me up for plenty of childhood trauma that translated into adulthood where I am still trying to unknot and sort it all out. I know my mother loved me, but she didn’t love herself enough to get out of the situation and stay out. Somewhere in her, I believe she didn’t feel she was worthy to expect more for her life. Despite a couple of attempts to move out, ultimately she stayed for several more years until finally, it took such a toll on her health that she had to leave. But by that time, the damage was done. Parents who try to do right by their kids never mean to cause the damage they cause. They are consumed with trying to figure out how to navigate their own lives, and some simply aren’t strong enough to sacrifice their comfort for the sake of their children. That gets inherited by default. Even when in therapy, exposure to that kind of toxic existence still gets transmitted to the kids. I don’t hold my mother responsible. I understand she was just trying to survive. Nevertheless, I still inherited the monster of not feeling like I was good enough. And with it came several hard experiences over my life that I’m still trying to shake off. I’m positively certain she’s suffered her own familial cycle of not feeling good enough which she inherited from her mother. Her mother before her suffered as well. I don’t think I’m the only one who has this story. You probably can relate in some form or way. What I think we both need to understand is that we are qualified and authorized by a higher power to bind and heal from our past childhood traumas. It is this power that we operate from, not from the opinions of others, but by the calling and redemption of our mission, sanctified by God himself. I believe that. We were anointed with the gift of writing not solely for our enjoyment, but for the benefit of others. We were given the gift of articulation so that we may help others live their purpose, find their truth, and battle their childhood demons. You are the word warrior. The mercenary sent by God to help others find their voice; to help others stand up for themselves and to make their voices heard. You are a soldier of the most high God, and there is no greater privilege, mission, or anointing than to be wholly covered in the supernatural gift of crafting a message that can persuade, heal, and forge massive change. To believe that you are not good enough for God’s anointing is to believe the lie of the enemy. It’s to fall short of your gifts and to short-change those meant to hear your words for their own healing. Essentially, you fail yourself and you fail them. You can have a career as a writer, or you can have a calling. An obsession. An undeniable quest for truth and feeling and understanding that is good enough for our God. Because the truth is eternal. There are no versions of the truth. You can choose or be chosen to write– which one do you feel is your calling? But whatever you do, don’t halfway it. There is freedom from fear and judgment when you know you’ve been called to soldier the message for the greater good of God’s people. Be a fanatic. Be irrational in your mission. Get unglued. That unapologetically certain about who you are, part of you who knows what you’re doing, and that you are absolutely good enough for God’s grace. Stop allowing fear to cause you to reject yourself. Stop allowing fear to flood in and control you. Instead, together we will require those who would judge, condemn, or admonish us to qualify themselves first to be an authority over us before we consider taking their word as truth (and even then, no one is ever really qualified to tell us what to do with our God-given gifts or mission anyway). When I experience those moments where I feel my writing isn’t good enough, or I’m not good enough– for my dad and mom and all the messages and subtleties I got from them, from ex-boyfriends, from the silent looks of judgment and condemnation repelling me to stay as far away from ever trying again so I wouldn’t feel that rejection, I remind myself that God has deemed me good enough to die for my sins. And if God is with me, then who can be against me? If God sees me as “good enough” , who am I to call him a liar? Who am I to not forgive myself when the Creator of the universe and beyond loved me enough to sacrifice His only son for me? Feeling not good enough is a form of rejection. When you’ve been rejected most of your life, or taught by experience that you aren’t good enough, you let fear take over and believe it. And as a result, you live your life in a place of fear. The reality is that you are perceiving that information based on an experience. It doesn’t make it true, but you give it credit because usually as a child you believed your parents were always right. You believed then that other people’s opinions of you were right. But what if they were wrong? What if the feeling of not being good enough was negotiable? What if you already knew you were good enough? What if a higher power qualified and authorized you as good enough? Where would our talents, dreams, aspirations, hopes, and joys live then? Certainly not bruising our knees scrubbing floors and hoping we don’t get screamed at again. Turns out, the only “good enough” you need to feel is a squeaky clean spirit of salvation bathed in forgiveness and grace, not in Palmolive.

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BINDING & HEALING THE SPIRIT OF "NOT GOOD ENOUGH"

During my school years, my mother who was in an abusive relationship for most of that time with my first stepdad, would scream at my step-siblings and me every day when she got home about the household chores we were required to do each day were not clean enough. It was a daily ritual. She would find something small to complain about. That complaining would turn into screaming and that screaming was a message that we never cleaned well enough.

She would inspect the floor, the dishes, and the bathroom and find something that wasn’t up to her cleaning standards to unload on us. It didn’t matter how hard we tried to anticipate what she would get angry about, or how hard we would clean, she would find something that wasn’t good enough. Looking back at her behavior, I’m unsure whether or not she was aware of what she was doing. I don’t think she was, but I can’t be sure.

Several years and plenty of therapy later, I’ve been able to get more of a 30,000-foot view of the situation, and here is the best I can come up with about that time–

Since she had such a loss of control over her own life–the daily verbal, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse fighting with my stepfather–she hyper-focused on the only things she could control. One of those was cleaning. And the only people she could take out her powerlessness on were her kids. Her husband dumped on her and in return, she dumped on us. We had no one to dump on but each other. Her feelings of not being good enough were transferred onto us. We were her proverbial “punching dolls.”

My brain largely internalized those feelings and translated them into one very clear meaning— No matter how hard I tried, I would never be good enough.

The entire situation was not great (to say the least) and set me up for plenty of childhood trauma that translated into adulthood where I am still trying to unknot and sort it all out.

I know my mother loved me, but she didn’t love herself enough to get out of the situation and stay out. Somewhere in her, I believe she didn’t feel she was worthy to expect more for her life. Despite a couple of attempts to move out, ultimately she stayed for several more years until finally, it took such a toll on her health that she had to leave. But by that time, the damage was done. Parents who try to do right by their kids never mean to cause the damage they cause. They are consumed with trying to figure out how to navigate their own lives, and some simply aren’t strong enough to sacrifice their comfort for the sake of their children.

That gets inherited by default. Even when in therapy, exposure to that kind of toxic existence still gets transmitted to the kids.

I don’t hold my mother responsible. I understand she was just trying to survive. Nevertheless, I still inherited the monster of not feeling like I was good enough. And with it came several hard experiences over my life that I’m still trying to shake off.

I’m positively certain she’s suffered her own familial cycle of not feeling good enough which she inherited from her mother. Her mother before her suffered as well.

I don’t think I’m the only one who has this story. You probably can relate in some form or way. What I think we both need to understand is that we are qualified and authorized by a higher power to bind and heal from our past childhood traumas.

It is this power that we operate from, not from the opinions of others, but by the calling and redemption of our mission, sanctified by God himself. I believe that.

We were anointed with the gift of writing not solely for our enjoyment, but for the benefit of others. We were given the gift of articulation so that we may help others live their purpose, find their truth, and battle their childhood demons.

You are the word warrior. The mercenary sent by God to help others find their voice; to help others stand up for themselves and to make their voices heard.

You are a soldier of the most high God, and there is no greater privilege, mission, or anointing than to be wholly covered in the supernatural gift of crafting a message that can persuade, heal, and forge massive change.

To believe that you are not good enough for God’s anointing is to believe the lie of the enemy. It’s to fall short of your gifts and to short-change those meant to hear your words for their own healing. Essentially, you fail yourself and you fail them.

You can have a career as a writer, or you can have a calling.

An obsession.

An undeniable quest for truth and feeling and understanding that is good enough for our God.

Because the truth is eternal. There are no versions of the truth.

You can choose or be chosen to write– which one do you feel is your calling?

But whatever you do, don’t halfway it.

There is freedom from fear and judgment when you know you’ve been called to soldier the message for the greater good of God’s people.

Be a fanatic.

Be irrational in your mission.

Get unglued.

That unapologetically certain about who you are, part of you who knows what you’re doing, and that you are absolutely good enough for God’s grace.

Stop allowing fear to cause you to reject yourself. Stop allowing fear to flood in and control you.

Instead, together we will require those who would judge, condemn, or admonish us to qualify themselves first to be an authority over us before we consider taking their word as truth (and even then, no one is ever really qualified to tell us what to do with our God-given gifts or mission anyway).

When I experience those moments where I feel my writing isn’t good enough, or I’m not good enough– for my dad and mom and all the messages and subtleties I got from them, from ex-boyfriends, from the silent looks of judgment and condemnation repelling me to stay as far away from ever trying again so I wouldn’t feel that rejection, I remind myself that God has deemed me good enough to die for my sins. And if God is with me, then who can be against me? If God sees me as “good enough” , who am I to call him a liar?

Who am I to not forgive myself when the Creator of the universe and beyond loved me enough to sacrifice His only son for me?

Feeling not good enough is a form of rejection.

When you’ve been rejected most of your life, or taught by experience that you aren’t good enough, you let fear take over and believe it. And as a result, you live your life in a place of fear.

The reality is that you are perceiving that information based on an experience. It doesn’t make it true, but you give it credit because usually as a child you believed your parents were always right. You believed then that other people’s opinions of you were right.

But what if they were wrong? What if the feeling of not being good enough was negotiable?

What if you already knew you were good enough? What if a higher power qualified and authorized you as good enough?

Where would our talents, dreams, aspirations, hopes, and joys live then?

Certainly not bruising our knees scrubbing floors and hoping we don’t get screamed at again.

Turns out, the only “good enough” you need to feel is a squeaky clean spirit of salvation bathed in forgiveness and grace, not in Palmolive.

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